|PDF ♊ The Film Club: A True Story of a Father and Son ♍ eBooks or Kindle ePUB free
I quit I cannot stand to read any I had been looking forward to reading this and was very much hoping to include it in the library s blog, but I can t do it I kept pushing and reached the half way mark, but no.A father allows his teenage son to drop out of school on the condition they together watch three movies of his dad s choice a week no job required, no pretense of schooling The movies themselves are only cursorily discussed, which seems one of the biggest flaws both with the plan and with the book.Yes, I get it that this was about the two spending time together and building communication, but when the father condones heavy drinking, smoking, and sex in the house, and he just waits for his son to have a random epiphany about moving forward in life, he loses huge points in credibility, to say the least The father himself is self congratulatory in the worst way and than happy to excuse even glaring faults in himself I neither liked nor could sympathize with him, especially when he chooses Basic Instinct for the second film This isn t even well written I just feel sorry for all connected to this book, including those who read it. I like the father and son exchange regarding movies and life in this little memoir from Gilmour THE FILM CLUB is a nice, light read. I don t think I ve read a self serving, craptastic piece of writing it barely touches on how they felt about the films they watched together Instead he pompously tells his son to watch for things in the films things that HE likes or notices, but he doesn t seem to ask his son what his SON liked , then gives a 4 sentence wrap up at the end Most of the book is the authors pointless to the story search for a job and how he lectures his drug abusing drinking son about how he ll get over girls Honestly, if this book wasn t billed as a man and his son watching movies, I would have actually felt better about it, but it s billed as something that it really isn t I d love to know about how they felt about the films, about what they agreed or disagreed on, and what his son really learned both about film, and about life in general Alas, it was not to be. There is a limit to what you can force your child to do, especially once they ve reached the age of 16 and are taller than you David Gilmour recognized that fact and bravely let his son Jesse drop out of school on the condition that, together, they watch and discuss three movies each week A former film critic for the CBC, Gilmour makes his movie selections with the intention of teaching his son as much as he can in the time they have left together.Being neither a father nor a son myself, I marvel at the picture Gilmour paints of this extremely complicated relationship These two make mistakes, get angry and disappoint one another, but they never shut each other out for long I was pleasantly surprised and a little awed by the candor of their conversations and the range of topics they discuss, many of which I imagined to be off limits to a teenage boy.I m most impressed by Gilmour s faith in his son, even in the wake of some horrible decisions and dangerous mistakes He clearly understands Jesse in a way that many parents don t as an individual with completely separate and sometimes incomprehensible motivations This understanding is what allows him to push through his feelings of fear and failure, and keep trying to forge a relationship with his son.This book was an honest and unflinching look at the father son relationship, both funny and bittersweet I came away with a new understanding of why sons need fathers in their lives, and what it means to let your children grow up. I was a bit skeptical when I first heard about this book There are so many writers out there who are now writing memoirs about their experiments in living I am not so sure that they aren t conducting the experiment just to get material for a book David Gilmour, an out of work television host film writer, decides to let his teenage son drop out of school on the condition that he watch 3 movies with his father a week He doesn t have to get a job, do anything to help his struggling divorced parents around the house, or even partake in a hobby It seems that as long as he sits with dad to watch films, he can sleep all day, drink all night, and spend his cash on cigarettes and beer Oh, and he s an aspiring rap singer That said, it could have been a better book Gilmour picks some interesting films, and they could be fodder for discussion between father and son but rather they seem like background Most of the son s concerns revolve around girls which ones like him, which ones he likes Exposure to the films of Woody Allen or Francois Truffault don t really seem to provide any solice when he gets dumped by his beautiful girlfriend Dad, do you think she really likes me Yawn. As far as I m concerned I m fairly easy to please I am a snob in most every way however I tend to put forward that facade so than is actually true as opposed to apparent That said.This book is God awful David Gil is easily one of the most self righteous and self absorded authors I ve ever read with particular concern and attention being paid to the fact that his painfully obvious solipsism is without any romantic suggestion to the likes of Updike, Mailer, Hemingway, etc He is obviously under the impression that he is the best father ever and that he s got a great idea by letting his son drop out of school as long as he watches 3 movies a week Um, fuck you I work 9 5 and am a full time drunk and watch at least twice as many as that in a week This isn t some new and radical form of communication or child rearing, it s a direct betrayal to responsible parenting in general This smug son of a bitch thinks he s stumbled upon a cool and hip new way of parenting because his baby doesn t like school B.F.D Nobody liked school You know what Gil s writing reminds me of Diablo Cody self indulgent tripe Yeah, you re cool We get it Stop writing because you re terrible I wouldn t wipe my ass with the torn pages of this waste. |PDF ♕ The Film Club: A True Story of a Father and Son ♫ At The Start Of This Brilliantly Unconventional Family Memoir, David Gilmour Is An Unemployed Movie Critic Trying To Convince His Fifteen Year Old Son Jesse To Do His Homework When He Realizes Jesse Is Beginning To View Learning As A Loathsome Chore, He Offers His Son An Unconventional Deal Jesse Could Drop Out Of School, Not Work, Not Pay Rent But He Must Watch Three Movies A Week Of His Father S Choosing Week By Week, Side By Side, Father And Son Watched Everything From True Romance To Rosemary S Baby To Showgirls, And Films By Akira Kurosawa, Martin Scorsese, Brian DePalma, Billy Wilder, Among Others The Movies Got Them Talking About Jesse S Life And His Own Romantic Dramas, With Mercurial Girlfriends, Heart Wrenching Breakups, And The Kind Of Obsessive Yearning Usually Seen Only In Movies Through Their Film Club, Father And Son Discussed Girls, Music, Work, Drugs, Money, Love, And Friendship And Their Own Lives Changed In Surprising Ways . One of those books that I picked up on a bit of a whim at the library that was deliciously light weekend fare that could be read in a couple of quick sittings The premise of this one is rather remarkable a Canadian father offers to let his son drop out of school if he watches three movies a week There are quite a few things in this book that really disturb, not the least of which is the fact that the son is hard to like He drinks a lot, is an aspiring rapper, and it is hard to tell whether he really is getting that much from the films they are watching Sometimes, you wonder whether the father is trying to be of friend to the son than he is a parent, something I just find intolerable You would think the films would provide the groundwork for discussion abut life and all the learning that would supplement the high school experience, but these discussions are rarely chronicled Essentially, the films serve as a background to the larger story of a parent helping his son deal with the various heartbreaks that come with growing up.Despite the above mentioned criticism, I couldn t help but enjoy this book Watching a great movie, much like reading a great book, is such an affecting experience, at times it can be almost spiritual John Irving has a great quote in The Fourth Hand where he notes that movies can be mutually appreciated, but the specific reasons for loving them cannot satisfactorily be shared Movies are comprised of the whole range of moods you are in when you see them you can never exactly imitate someone else s love of a movie What is so great about this book is that we get to hear, multiple times about multiple movies, why Gilmour loves them, and I love to hear people talk and write about things they are passionate about In the book while imparting advice to his son about his rap lyrics, Gilmour advises his son to essentially write what you know, and those various points in this book where the author writes what he knows about filmmaking are tough to beat Here, for example, is a quote that I loved American Graffiti isn t just about a bunch of kids on a Saturday night When a very youg Richard Dreyfuss drops in on the local radio station, there s a gorgeous moment when he catches Wolfman Jack doing his gravel voiced routine Dreyfuss suddenly understands what the center of the universe really is It s not a place, it s the embodiment of a desire to never miss out on anything not somewhere you can go, in other words, but rather a place you want to be And I loved the speech the hot rodder gives, about how it used to take a full tank of gas to do the town strip, but now it s over in five minutes Without knowing it, he s talking about the end of childhood The world has shrunk while you were looking the other way I don t want to wear out my welcome talking about Proust and American Graffiti, but how else can you look at that beautiful girl in the Thunderbird who keeps appearing and disappearing at the edge of Dreyfuss s vision, except as an example of the Proustian contemplation that possession and desire are mutually exclusive, that for the girl to be the girl, she must always be pulling away There were various moments, such as that, that made this book worthwhile If you love movies and you love to hear people talking passionately about movies, this book has enough to keep you satisfied. Awhile back I read a touching memoir called Life, Death Bialys about a father son pair who take a baking class together and discover new and wonderful things about their complicated relationship I was hoping that The Film Club would give me an equally warm hearted feeling This is the story of a 16 year boy who just isn t quite cutting it in school He is bored in class and does not seem motivated to do any of this work His film loving father decides that maybe letting him drop out of school for a bit will create a long term solution But, there s one catch His son must watch three movies a week with him The shocked son readily agrees And so the Film Club begins I then thought perhaps this would be like a book I read and LOVED a long time ago courtesy of my Aunty Marji called The Day I Became an Autodidact by Kendall Hailey about a teenage girl who homeschools herself with a definite plan to take control of her own education and learn everything on her own I so wished I could be her staying home everyday and just reading and reading and reading and becoming an expert on so many things I thought perhaps Mr Gilmour had a similarly structured plan in mind for his son only with movies instead of books Alas, I was sorely mistaken Instead of arranging weeks of films by genre or time period or director and teaching his son what he could about a given issues Gilmour appears to pick his films at random He spouts off a sentence or two about each movie mostly while his son rolls his eyes or gazes off into the distance and then he just hits play Gilmour clearly has a great deal of knowledge about film, and I felt like the book was a vehicle for him to espouse his views on the given films, rather than give the reader any insight into how the films may have affected his son or creating any meaningful dialogue between the two In addition to the movie watching, Gilmour spends much of the book focused on his son s pathetic love life His son shares quite a bit with him about the girls who lead him on and break his heart, but who he can t help being unnaturally obsessed with And Gilmour offers to him quite possibly the world s worst advice, over and over The two also seem to drink a lot together, despite his son s young age, including a stint in Cuba where the two order beer after beer Gilmour is then shocked when his son reveals that he uses drugs perhaps the persistant malaise, lack of interest in anything, and disastrous personal relationships were not big enough red flags and despite Gilmour s stern warning at the beginning of the book that if he finds out his son is using drugs that The Film Club will stop and his son will be cut off not surprisingly for a father with no boundaries, the incident is brushed aside and Film Club continues in all its pointless nonsense Along the way, Gilmour is also proud to include stories about his than civilized relationship with his ex wife who strangely appears to have no objections to this weird educational situation There is no doubt that Gilmour loves his son, but he portrays him in this book as one of the biggest losers of all time It would be nice in a couple years to include an Afterward hopefully showing how The Film Club saved his son from an otherwise dead end high school career, and how his son is now a successful film maker, or something of the sort I am a big believer that mainstream high school is certainly not for everyone, and that home school or self directed learning is a great option for many kids But, I still believe a semblance of focus and a plan is necessary for learning to actually take place This book did nothing to prove me wrong, and I found it a colossal and disturbing disappointment.